We recently posted up a live video on Our Facebook page with the title “Big Announcement” and people were making guesses before we even got to the good part. “Hun er gravid!” with a reply shortly after “What? who is pregnant?”
Of course our pals and family always ask us: “When are you men going to have kids?” and numerous readers ask us “What if you have kids? how could you travel then?”
Well the truth is, at this time we have no plans to have a baby and the announcement was actually about travel! If we did decide to go down that path, it wouldn’t end our travelling lifestyle, it’s just not something we want in our lives best now.
Will We ever have Kids?
We have always been the type of people who live by the “never say never” philosophy, so even though we don’t see any children in our future, that could always change. Our life is an open road and we don’t allow speed bumps and stop signs to keep us from turning whichever way we please.
If we all of a sudden feel the overwhelming urge to have a child, then our entire minds may change all of a sudden and we might just opt for it. It would just be another fantastic adventure and one that we couldn’t possibly understand until we experienced it.
Our life is always susceptible to enormous change. before we started travelling, we had just recently purchased and furnished a condominium, thinking that would be our life plan… but things changed rapidly and soon we sold everything and left on a year long trip.
We never really “planned” to instruct English in China. We got the idea after volunteering in Myanmar and while we were travelling in China we just chose to answer an ad on a hostel wall and voila.
We love that our life is full of spontaneity and excitement and while a kid would require some advanced planning, we are not fully against it, but at this time we just don’t see it.
What if we did have kids? would we still travel?
Absolut. 100%. Our lifestyle would not change entirely just because we had a kid. I can hear the comments at the bottom of this post already. “You can’t travel with kids full-time!” “They need to go to school!”, “Children need normality and routine”, “What about their education?!”.
Those are all valid points to be made, but we strongly believe that the road is the best school for a child. Of course, people can disagree with that idea. everyone is totally free to have their own opinion. Our opinion is that children learn much more from cultural immersion and world exploration than they ever could from books and classrooms.
We didn’t always think this way. before we started travelling I thought that all kids ought to be in front of a teacher 6 hours a day, 5 days a week. but travel has taught me something. faktisk nej. fantastic parents who travel with their kids have taught me something. children can flourish in a travelling environment too.
If you follow inspiring travel blogs like TravelWithBender.com and yTravelBlog.com, you’ll start to realize that children can flourish in a nomadic lifestyle. They can stimulate parts of their brains that they would never use at home and focus on things that they are good at, rather than being forced to change from classroom to classroom, despite having apparent talent in one area.
We met a couple who currently live in Grenada, but have also lived in numerous different parts of the world. A kind of nomadic family. Their children were all home schooled from a young age and their oldest daughter is a testament to how fantastic this can be for kids. She is bright, articulate, sociable, intelligent and extremely mature.
If we were to have kids, they would stay on the road with us. They would of course learn the basics of math, language, science and history, but they would be encouraged to spend much more time on studies that they’re passionate about.
The unschooling method is becoming much more and much more popular and people are finally starting to see the defects in conventional schools. When I was a kid, I was outstanding at english, photography and visual arts media (video editing), yet I spent far more time learning science, math, law, history and social studies.
Luckily, after school I eventually found my way back to my passion. I now write, take photos and create videos for a living. had I spent twice as much time learning about those subjects in school however, I probably would have figured this all out much sooner and would likely also be much much more skilled in these fields than I am today.
If we ever have kids, they will be taught on the road. They will be introduced to the world. I wouldn’t say to them: “You know that kids in Africa are very hungRy og du spiser ikke dine grøntsager ”. Jeg ville vise dem.
Jeg behøver ikke at pege på pyramiderne i Giza i en tekstbog eller instruere dem om slaveri i Caribien fra dokumentarer og fotografier, jeg ville bringe dem der og være en del af historien med dem, mens de viser dem hvordan At leve deres liv bedre i fremtiden.
Ja … vores børn ville være verdslige, og vi ville stadig rejse med dem. Det ville bare være en anden type rejser og en anden type eventyr.
Hvorfor vil vi ikke have børn?
Det er ikke det, at vi ikke kan lide børn. Jeg elsker børn.
Nå … når jeg ikke er i et indkøbscenter, fly, hotel, restaurant, strand eller bar med en lille tyrann skrigende og løber rundt på stedet …
Men generelt elsker jeg velopdragne børn.
Jeg har 3 fantastiske små nieser, og selvom jeg ikke får se dem næsten nok, elsker jeg at tilbringe tid med dem. De er kærester, og de får mig altid til at smile.
Da vi underviste i engelsk i Kina, uanset hvor udmattede eller grinede vi måske har været om morgenen, så snart vi så vores små studerendes smilende ansigter, ville vi smile med dem. Vi ville grine med dem, lege med dem og have en fantastisk tid.
Så hvorfor vil vi ikke have børn?
Lige nu elsker vi bare at tilbringe tid med hinanden. Selvfølgelig kunne jeg aldrig tænke på den kærlighed, som en forælder har til deres barn, men på dette tidspunkt føler jeg mig tilfreds med den kærlighed, som Dariece og jeg har for hinanden, og jeg vil ikke tage et øjeblik væk fra det.
Vi elsker at tilbringe tid med vores nieser. Men vi elsker også, at vi giver dem tilbage til min bror efter en dag med babysitting. Vi elsker at vi altid kan vende tilbage til fred og stille med hinanden.
Vi elsker også at være i stand til at være spontan og have friheden til at gøre, hvad vi vil … på et indfald.
Afslutningsvis
Lige nu planlægger vi bare ikke at have børn. Så hold op med at spørge os! haha. Vi elsker børn, vi ville ikke lade dem ændre vores liv, vi tror, at børnene blomstrer på vejen, men vi vil bare være sammen med hinanden for nu. Måske vil dette ændre sig ned ad vejen. måske ikke.
Det er lidt sjovt, at gedeafkom også kaldes børn. Måske vil vi bare købe en baby ged og skrive en kort artikel kaldet “Vi havde et barn!” Vi gemmer muligvis den 1. april 2017.
Hvad synes du? Vil du have børn? Har du børn? Vil du nogensinde rejse med dem på fuld tid?
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